The Christmas holidays are popular days for meals and family gatherings. Many love them but many others are really lazy about meeting people. For some people, Christmas is that time of year when you have to share the list and Too long after dinner With family members who you don’t see all year or who you can’t stand very often. It could be the husband’s father or mother-in-law, or one of the brothers whom you hardly see or do not get along with, Smart son-in-law On duty… If everyone maintains their morals, there is no problem. The discomfort comes when you have to endure comments rudeout of place or mischievous. In fact, these types of situations are what usually cause Typical Christmas discussions.
How to prevent sparks from flying
How do you survive the party peacefully and survive the Christmas meal without ending the evening with an upset stomach not specifically caused by the food?
Sarah Jane Ho Harvard-educated etiquette experthost of the Netflix show Mind Your Morals and author of the book “Be polite.” She is also the founder of the Sarita Institute, a kind of good manners academy for nouveau riche Chinese born for the purpose of teaching etiquette. Basic behavior Which operates all over the world and which has helped Chinese millionaires do business all over the world and with cultures like the West that have nothing to do with their culture.
Curiosity aside, he is an expert on how to act and what to say when different people are sitting around a table so that sparks don’t fly if someone throws Inappropriate comment.
The strange thing is that according to Sarah Jane Ho, the best response of all is silence.
What to say when you encounter a rude comment
When you receive a rude comment from someone or are asked to do something that upsets or offends you, the best thing, according to him, is to Don’t answer anything at all. Maintain absolute silence. Those seconds of silence leave the other person confused and likely to realize that they are saying something out of place. If more people notice your silence, the person who said the rude thing will be more noticeable and may feel rushed. Your silence has the effect of throwing the ball in the other’s court.
The best thing about this technique is that you don’t need to give a witty answer or be eloquent or convincing. Everyone knows how to remain silentalthough it costs some more than others.
Moreover, by responding with complete silence, you are implying that what the other person is saying to you does not affect you much. “The greatest power is to show that the other person has no power over you.”He concludes.
As for face features What should accompany your silence, everything depends on the degree of rudeness. If the comment is somewhat annoying but not important, you can remain silent and smile at the same time without saying a word. If rudeness is offensive, the advice is simply to remain silent. It’s not even worth looking angry.. The best is A Facial expressions are neutralAs if you didn’t hear anything. They say there is no greater disdain than not showing appreciation.
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